


You've tried everything. Here's why it hasn't stuck.
✓ Sticker charts and reward systems
✓ Time-outs and taking things away
✓ Being calmer, stricter or "more consistent"
✓ Parenting books, podcasts and Instagram tips
✓ Therapy, OT or ABA, and home still feels hard
Most strategies target the behavior. But behavior is a message. When a strategy doesn't match why your child is melting down, it fails no matter how consistent you are. The why might be a hidden trigger, a skill they don't have yet, or a demand just past their limit.
Finding that why is what I've done every day for more than a decade as a school psychologist and BCBA.
You've tried everything. Here's why it hasn't stuck.
✓ Sticker charts and reward systems
✓ Time-outs and taking things away
✓ Being calmer, stricter or "more consistent"
✓ Parenting books, podcasts and Instagram tips
✓ Therapy, OT or ABA, and home still feels hard
Most strategies target the behavior. But behavior is a message. When a strategy doesn't match why your child is melting down, it fails no matter how consistent you are. The why might be a hidden trigger, a skill they don't have yet, or a demand just past their limit.
Finding that why is what I've done every day for more than a decade as a school psychologist and BCBA.
C — Clues: We uncover the hidden, layered triggers behind the meltdowns, including the ones you can't see yet.
A — Attune: You learn to stay regulated in the moment, so your calm becomes theirs.
L — Limit: You hold boundaries without the blowup, using responses that de-escalate instead of fuel it.
M — Map: We build skills at your child's level and a plan that carries into adulthood.
I don't just look at the child in front of you. I look at the adult they're becoming and work backward.
C — Clues: We uncover the hidden, layered triggers behind the meltdowns, including the ones you can't see yet.
A — Attune: You learn to stay regulated in the moment, so your calm becomes theirs.
L — Limit: You hold boundaries without the blowup, using responses that de-escalate instead of fuel it.
M — Map: We build skills at your child's level and a plan that carries into adulthood.
I don't just look at the child in front of you. I look at the adult they're becoming and work backward.
HI THERE!

Licensed Educational Psychologist
Board Certified Behavior Analyst, BCBA
Behavioral Therapist
ADHD & Autism Parent Coach
Licensed Educational Psychologist
Board Certified Behavior Analyst, BCBA
Behavioral Therapist
ADHD & Autism Parent Coach
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California, USA
California, USA
HI THERE!
I'm Yas
I'm Yas
For over 10 years, I’ve walked alongside parents who felt like they were drowning. Parents who were exhausted, overwhelmed, and out of answers, yet deeply loved their children and just wanted things to feel better at home.
For over 10 years, I’ve walked alongside parents who felt like they were drowning. Parents who were exhausted, overwhelmed, and out of answers, yet deeply loved their children and just wanted things to feel better at home.






Pick a time below. We'll talk through what's happening at home, what's really driving it, and what would help, whether or not we work together. Your partner is welcome to join.
Pick a time below. We'll talk through what's happening at home, what's really driving it, and what would help, whether or not we work together. Your partner is welcome to join.
© 2026 Chaos to Calm Parenting™ - Yas Shirinzadeh
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(951) 720-1414
© 2026 Chaos to Calm Parenting™ - Yas Shirinzadeh
Program Policy | [email protected]
(951) 720-1414